Guy Calls Out Wife for Not Wearing Wedding Ring, Rift Starts to Form Between Them

How important is it to you that your partner wears their wedding ring?

To this one Redditor who snapped at his wife when he noticed she wasn't rocking hers when the two of them headed out to go and watch a movie, it meant a lot.

So much so that it ended up causing a tiff between the married couple. The Redditor, @Dangerous_AD_9818 (who we'll refer to as OP in the rest of this post), wanted to ask other folks on the popular website if he was overreacting after noticing that his wife didn't wear her wedding band numerous days in a row.

It sounds like his initial gripe, however began with a scenario fueled mostly by jealousy — he mentioned that his wife told him one day that when she was out shopping the cashier at the store was hitting on her.

OP writes that he and his wife have a "strong foundation" in their relationship and that the two of them usually find it "comical" whenever someone flirts with her.

His wife did mention, however, that she wasn't wearing her wedding ring and that may've contributed to the employee's assiduousness in trying to mack it to her.

The Redditor adds that even though the two of them have only been married "for a little less than a year," they've been in an exclusive relationship for 10 years and lived together for eight.

They've been wearing wedding bands ever since their proposal, which means that for several years, they've been rocking these rings. OP detailed the beginning of where things went sour: "Yesterday, we were planning on going to see a movie. As we were walking out the door, I noticed that she was not wearing her ring again. I asked (in an admittedly not pleasant tone), 'so do you not wear your wedding ring in public any more?'"

Her reaction indicated that she wasn't exactly happy with the way he broached the subject with her: "She was kind of taken aback, and said no she just forgot to put it on and went and put it on before we left."

He said that even though there was a tension between the two of them that seemed palpable, he thought they both ended up enjoying the movie. However, on the ride back she told him that she "had a headache because of [him]" and she explained that because she's an attractive woman she can't help it if people are going to hit on her or not.

She also added that her personality isn't defined by whether or not she decides to wear a wedding ring. OP countered that had she had been wearing her ring then the cashier may have not hit on her, but then she clapped back and said that the cashier probably wouldn't have seen her ring in the first place.

Ultimately, OP said that he was most taken aback by how "defensive" she got in the car, but provided some follow-up context and updates for other users on the app who offered up their opinions on the matter.

He said that "individual" comments weren't all that helpful, but after reading several, he noticed that "clear trends were uncovered" throughout and that he eventually was able to resolve his issue with his wife by apologizing for taking a snarky tone. He asked her if she would like to not wear their rings out in public as much and she told him that she most certainly wants to continue to do so.

But then she also added that she would like for OP to understand she's human and if she does forget to wear her wedding ring, it wasn't done intentionally, and sometimes people make mistakes. As the Redditor wrote it: "I apologized again, and acknowledged that even though we have been together a decent amount of time, we never actually discussed what we wanted the value of our rings to represent. I actually suggested that I’d be OK wearing them less if that was more comfortable."

He continued, "She said that no she wanted to still wear them out in public, just that I need to understand that people forget things like this and it’s normal. End of story, we are on good terms, and she thanked me for bringing the topic up again so we could work things out together."

One commenter who responded to the post echoed the notion that a wedding ring doesn't really stop folks from hitting on people (even though OP said when he was single he would actively make sure to try not to flirt with someone who was clearly married): "It’s weird," the commenter said, "I assumed that my husband wouldn’t wear his ring day to day because he’s a manual laborer, but he does and I actually really like seeing it. Even after 12 years married. That said, I’ve been hit on (aggressively) while wearing my wedding rings. Good communication."

How would you feel if your significant other forgot to wear their wedding ring? Would you assume there was something shady going on? (OP mentioned numerous times that he was secure in his relationship with his wife.) Or do you think that it's only normal for people to sometimes forget to put their wedding band on?